Some links and notes for May 10, 2018

See if you notice a pattern. This took all of 5 seconds to find:

(May 14 update: gong to keep revising this post as an ongoing list of aging out examples, check back often).

But remember, when you hear about the progress in foster care and how “it’s different now” than it used to be.

No.

The fuck.

It’s not.

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Surviving is enough. It will always be enough.

Background:

Those in my life who often roll their eyes when I discuss politics or current issues know that  I limit my news sources rather severely. That doesn’t mean I don’t know what is going on, quite the opposite.

The one true ring in “fake news” is that most of what you watch and read is mass produced, consensus driven, watered down drivel.  If that is what counts as fake news, then OK, it’s fake. Give the orange drumpf that at least.

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Some links and notes for May 8, 2018

A few links form around the web. Make of it what you will.

“Here’s the ugly truth: most Americans who are victims of sex trafficking come from our nation’s own foster care system. It’s a deeply broken system that leaves thousands vulnerable to pimps as children and grooms them for the illegal sex trade as young adults.”

“No child should have to face that. And yet, on May 3, 2018, lawmakers in my home state of Oklahoma voted to make it harder for foster children to find a loving family by allowing child-placing agencies that receive state and federal dollars, to put their beliefs ahead of the best interests of those children”

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Why end foster care?

Let’s play a game.

It’s a game you’ve played before.

It’s called “pretend.”

It’s a fun game where you can make all kinds of assumptions, wild arguments and create fantastical outcomes.

Let’s pretend the following…

You’re 13.  You’re in middle school,  seventh grade.  Your best friend is clearly having a bad day.  After lots and lots of annoying nagging from you she finally opens up – and breaks down.

Turns out, your best friend has been molested by her father for the last three years.  Her mother doesn’t know.  Her priest, priestess or minister or doesn’t know.  Nobody knows – except you and her.

What do you do?
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Understanding Adoptee Behavior

The overwhelming number of adoptees, 85%, adjusts in ways that society regards as successful. (Kadushin, A.1980). The remaining 15% require intervention by therapists and counselors. Those that adjust successfully may still have serious concerns resulting from the adoption process that are in need of a resolution. The absence of a disorder or dysfunction is not an indicator of one who is achieving optimum development. Since creating the best developmental setting for children is the goal of parenting I am going to explore the causes and goals of adoptee behaviors. I believe that understanding why adoptees behave is the key to creating the best opportunity for them to develop. It also leads the way to effective therapy.

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