Category Archives: Aging out

The price of admission

Posting has been slow.  But that doesn’t mean I haven’t been thinking about my life.

This summer, my wife and I completed the foster parent training course in our county.  We’re not sure that we will foster at this time, but it’s on our radar.  Regardless, I went through a little dip in my psyche as that came to an end after six Saturdays of being triggered for 4 hours straight and not screaming.

Depressing would hardly define the feeling I got watching the faces of prospective foster parents admit they have never heard of the ACES study on the last day of the course – even after it was assigned as homework for their training course. “How many have heard of the ACES study?” Chirp. Chirp. Un-fucking-believable. {Here’s a nice Ted Talk so you have a clue about why the ASCES study is so profound and why I probably won’t see my 75th birthday.}

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About Derrick Peavy

Sometimes entrepreneur. Former foster. Derrick Peavy is one of the millions of former foster children, having livd in seven foster homes between 1976 and 1989. His final foster home was the right home and became his family. Follow Derrick on Twitter @SurvivingFoster or on Quora

Some links and notes for May 10, 2018

See if you notice a pattern. This took all of 5 seconds to find:

(May 14 update: gong to keep revising this post as an ongoing list of aging out examples, check back often).

But remember, when you hear about the progress in foster care and how “it’s different now” than it used to be.

No.

It’s not.

Yes, there are people who care. Yes, there are good programs. Yes, there are good social workers and good foster parents out there. Yes, yes, yes.

But the data don’t lie. And systemically, it’s not changing.

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About Derrick Peavy

Sometimes entrepreneur. Former foster. Derrick Peavy is one of the millions of former foster children, having livd in seven foster homes between 1976 and 1989. His final foster home was the right home and became his family. Follow Derrick on Twitter @SurvivingFoster or on Quora